Mass Service for Matt 1/16/2016

And the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds……. I am still looking for that peace.

Today marked the second full year since my son Matt’s untimely departure. And I am a father still so much in grief. I find myself feeling alone even amidst love ones, even in a crowd. I am grateful I still work full time; the busyness of work helps me to not remember vividly Matt’s untimely departure if just for few moments in the day. Chris and I visit Matt’s grave weekly, religiously; and like me Chris still deeply grieves and I feel her pain.

I am not in a state of depression, but my state of mind is not at peace where I would like it to be. My only escape is in my sleep until I wake up in the morning.

I pray and pray and pray, and praying eases the pain, but not tremendously.

I miss Matt so much, especially at Christmas, his absolute favorite time of year. I loved seeing his face while opening his presents, when playing with his toy collections. Matt was a perpetual child at heart and at play. And he loved God; he prayed a lot. I envision him gliding down from Heaven with glorious wings and hug and tell me all is well dad; I love you dad. And I say back, I love you Matt, I miss you son. Then reality reminds me; Matt’s no longer here. And I ask God; please take good care of my son. And I pray some more. And my faith is not wavering, but still I ask why God called Matt home when He did; He could have waited at least another ten years. But in the end, God’s will be done.

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